May 2012
5 posts
The Gatekeeping Fallacy
The process of transition isn’t the same for all trans people, but there is a common pool of potential medical procedures and treatments that can be selected from, as desired. Some of these treatments and procedures can be undertaken freely (free as in freedom, not as in free beer); others require approval from a qualified professional. For the restricted treatments and procedures, you generally...
Re: Re: Re: upcoming family reunion, restrooms:
Aunt [name], Aunt [name], and Aunt [name],
I don’t care about the dormitory for the sake of the dormitory. I care about being treated the same as any other woman that comes to the reunion. Access to the dormitory is unquestioningly given to all of the other women that come to this reunion. You don’t ask about their genitals. You don’t check every new woman that comes around. You actually don’t...
Re: Re: upcoming family reunion, restrooms:
Kelsie,
We want you to know that no matter what choices you have made you are part of the [last name] family. We would not be having this dialog if that were not so. We care about you the same way we do any other family member no matter what the issue. We want to make this a wonderful [last name] reunion for all the [last name] family. We are sure that you concur and want the same.
I (Aunt...
Re: upcoming family reunion, restrooms:
Hey Aunt [name],
I’ve been pondering your proposed condition since we last spoke, and I wanted to share my thoughts with you on it.
As I’m sure you noticed, I am quite upset with your request that I avoid gendered spaces while attending this year’s family reunion. I was unable to fully articulate my feelings on this during our last conversation.
You made a statement to the effect...
Privilege & Marginalization
Over the last couple of days, I’ve experienced a very major internal rewiring. As I write this right now, I’m nearly in tears over realizing how blind I’ve been to my own participation in a problem that comes right around and negatively impacts me every day that I live. My hope is that you will read this and something in it will grab hold of your heart as well, like it did mine when I encountered...